By: Padraig Danaher
Every November, we shine a light on an issue that’s often overlooked, misunderstood, or quietly endured: Men’s Mental Health.
The numbers tell an important story—1 in 10 men experience anxiety or depression, yet fewer than half receive the support or treatment they need.
For many men, the idea of being “strong” has long been tied to silence, self-reliance, and “getting on with it.” But the truth is this:
Asking for help isn't a weakness. It’s courage.
Being open, seeking support, and taking care of yourself are powerful acts—ones that can change a life, a family, and a future.
This month, we want to unpack what real support looks like and how families can play a transformative role in helping men reconnect, rebuild, and thrive.
Supporting Connection and Mental Well-Being for Men
We turn to the insights of Padraig Danaher, Clinical Specialist Occupational Therapist, who works closely with individuals navigating mental health challenges. Through his lens, meaningful occupation—what we do with our time, hands, energy, and community—can be a gateway back to well-being.
According to Padraig, people are “occupational beings”: our activities shape our identity, purpose, and connection. For men who may struggle to express emotion directly, task-based, meaningful activities often become the safest and most effective entry point for healing.
Why This Approach Matters
Loneliness, isolation, and a reluctance to seek help put many men at risk. Traditional talk therapy can feel intimidating, but hands-on activities, routine, and shared roles create natural opportunities for connection—without the pressure.
Families can make a tremendous difference through small, regular actions that help men:
- reconnect with valued roles
- rebuild confidence
- step back into social life
- rediscover purpose and identity
The key isn’t intensity—it’s consistency.
A Practical, Family-Friendly Guide to Support Men’s Well-Being
Here are seven simple, evidence-informed strategies you can start today:
1. Begin with a Shared Goal
Pick one or two activities he enjoys—sport, gardening, DIY, volunteering—and set small, doable steps together.
2. Create Low-Pressure Spaces for Connection
Men’s Sheds, clubs, and hands-on projects allow conversation to happen naturally, without forced emotional disclosure.
3. Bring Conversation Into Action
Anchor feelings to tasks: “How did you feel while working on that project?”
Short, practical prompts work best.
4. Build Routine and Predictability
A weekly class, walk, or project reduces decision fatigue and builds stability.
5. Encourage Peer Support
A trusted friend, mentor, or buddy system boosts motivation and connection.
6. Mix Digital and In-Person Options
Online classes, micro-workshops, or simple at-home activity plans make participation accessible.
7. Stay Crisis-Aware
Know the signs of worsening distress, and have GP or crisis contacts nearby. Early action saves lives.
A Simple Example Week
- Monday: 30-minute family walk or cycle
- Thursday: A hands-on project + short debrief
- Saturday: Community sport or group activity + buddy check-in
- Any day: Optional one-line mood reflection
Small steps add up.
When to Seek Support
Watch for changes in sleep, appetite, energy, mood, or interest in hobbies. Persistent sadness or thoughts of self-harm require immediate support from a GP or crisis service.
You're never alone—and neither is he.
A Closing Thought
Men’s mental health is not an individual issue—it’s a family and community effort. By focusing on meaningful occupations, shared routines, and genuine connection, we create environments where men feel seen, capable, and supported.
You don’t need to have the perfect words.
You just need to show up, participate, and walk alongside him.
About The Author
Padraig Danaher
Padraig is a Clinical Specialist Occupational Therapist and psychological coach specialising in trauma, positive psychology, and mindset. With over 14 years of experience across social care and mental health, he combines therapy and coaching to support adolescents and adults through adversity. His practice is grounded in connectedness, identity, meaningful roles, and hope.
Connect with Padraig:
LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/padraig-danaher
Website: www.theotcoach.ie
Instagram: @the_ot_coach_
Podcasts: https://linktr.ee/theotcoach